Comments on: From Heartbreak To Healing

By: Hannah

Hannah — Fri, 24 Feb 2012 13:01:04 +0000

In reply to Hannah's Grandfather. I know it was so long ago.. but thank you=)

By: Gloria

Gloria — Sat, 09 Jul 2011 00:55:53 +0000

“What you resist persists” Karl Jung; or “When you have touched bottom the only way is up”.
I agree (from a totally different experience that did not included any human being) that it is 100% like that. In other words: as long as you resist to get the teaching the Universe is trying to deliver, the same sort of things will continue to happen until you embrace them, grow in the process, release them and move on. As the hindu says: there’s only a continous present but if you choose to stay in the pain of what is gone, no new doors will ever open for you, ’cause you will be constantly looking at the one who closed behind you.
Good example. No doubt the best option is to empty yourself to be renewed.
Regards.

By: Rosanna

Rosanna — Sun, 12 Jun 2011 02:03:42 +0000

Bruce, there’s nobody who can understand you better than me. As a matter of fact, I’ve just been dumped in a similar way by my live-in bf, who left after EIGHT years, while I was attending classes. I think that the hardest part is that something as abrupt and conniving as this leaves you, well, speechless, wounded, injured. It would be different if you would have gotten dumped face to face, or if the love ended. When you get dumped while you are cheerfully doing something else, you question ALL the time together, and obsess over the lies, what you could have done to see it coming, how you could have protected yourself better.
I’m doing the same thing you are suggesting… I’m thinking about it, even obsessing about it, in the hope that if I feel it all NOW I’ll recover sooner. Some days are easier than others… and sometimes I think that having too much (in terms of beauty, intelligence, and charisma) make us more vulnerable to this kind of stuff.

By: SG

SG — Sat, 11 Jun 2011 20:50:42 +0000

@ Rebecca Norrington.
Your post kinda annoyed me. Pain after a break up is not a conditioned response. It is pain. It’s natural, it’s normal and it’s human. I think Bruce’s response to his pain was actually unconditioned and brave. Most societies feel that if you express your pain you’re weak. A conditioned response from Bruce would have been to act like nothing is wrong and remember the ” good memories.”
To feel is human and to grieve should be encouraged.
SG

By: Donna

Donna — Fri, 22 Apr 2011 19:52:03 +0000

Dear Bruce: Thank you so much for your blog! It really helps to know that I don’t have to feel this way forever. A quote that helps me is: “What you resist will persist, but what you befriend will transcend.” Robin Sharma

I know you will find a lovely person to love you. You deserve it.

With gratitude,

Donna

By: Bruce Muzik

Bruce Muzik — Thu, 21 Apr 2011 04:09:28 +0000

In reply to Jessica Kizorek. I love you too Jess! Hope you're healing fast.

By: Alexis

Alexis — Tue, 19 Apr 2011 23:36:22 +0000

Wow, it was so refreshing to read your post because it validated my experiences of surrendering to my feelings. I became afflicted with OCD about 5 years ago and because I am an action kind of person, I began to systematically work on as many healing modalities as I could to control the symptoms and eventually heal myself entirely. The most important part of my healing came from having the courage to face my fears and anxieties – allowing them to move through me like an ocean wave. I keep picturing myself stretched out on the sand with anxious thought waves moving gently over me and moving out again. It was an astonishing success in terms of staving off the terrible obsessions and their resulting compulsions. Then, I began to open my mind and soul to experience the underlying feelings that contributed to the OCD. I had to face the feelings and surrender to the awesome pain of allowing long suppressed memories and emotions to come forward and be released. As you said in your blog, it felt awful – but eventually, I emerged transformed. Getting OCD and eventually releasing it through surrender (which is really just amazing courage) has been the most profound experience of my life. Thank you for your blog – I feel connected :).

By: Jessica Kizorek

Jessica Kizorek — Tue, 19 Apr 2011 13:56:02 +0000

You’re a stud. If I wasn’t so gay I’d slurp you up and make you mine. 🙂

By: Venessa

Venessa — Tue, 19 Apr 2011 09:53:28 +0000

Hey Bruce….

It’s Nes, sorry to hear things didn’t turn out the way you had hoped for. Doesn’t matter how much we plan out our life, it always throws a curve ball or 2.

By: Wendy Lieber

Wendy Lieber — Mon, 18 Apr 2011 18:23:34 +0000

Bruce – great post. So dead on about not being able to move on until we deal with ourselves and our feelings. thanks for opening up and sharing.